see - feel - choose FAQs

It includes a check-in, but it doesn’t stop there. SEE – FEEL – CHOOSE creates a structured pause before deciding next steps. The “choose” stage is where direction, guidance and action live, informed by understanding rather than assumption.

This framework does not replace safeguarding processes.

If concerns arise, adults follow existing safeguarding procedures. SEE – FEEL – CHOOSE can support how the conversation is held, but escalation and professional judgement remain essential.

No. CHOOSE is always framed as supported choice. Adults remain responsible for:

• deciding when to intervene
• setting boundaries
• involving others
• ensuring safety

Children are not expected to manage difficult content alone.

This is common, and okay. This framework allows for uncertainty. Adults can model language, offer options, or acknowledge that feelings are mixed or unclear. Not knowing is part of sense-making. We don't have to fix everything straight away

Yes, the framework stays the same, but the language, examples and adult scaffolding change depending on age and need. It can be adapted across primary and secondary settings, with SEND-informed adjustments where appropriate.

Sometimes, nothing more needs to happen immediately.

At other times, CHOOSE leads to:

• follow-up conversations
• practical steps
• monitoring over time
• additional support

The framework supports ongoing judgement, not one-off decisions.

Because resilience without understanding can lead to emotional bypassing. SEE – FEEL – CHOOSE focuses first on interpretation and meaning, recognising that emotional responses are information, not problems to be solved quickly.